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Holy Discontent

Filed under: Gender Equality, Health & Medical, Justice, Personal Story — Guest at 1:00 am on Sunday, July 23, 2006

One of the problems with developing a concern (or anger!) over biblical equality is that it can hang over you like a cloud and drag you down in the dumps, make you feel moody, put other people out of sorts against you. How much more safe and sane to just attend your sweet little evangelical church, don’t make waves, and float in the old familiar music and words. But is that right? As Hope said so well on my blog [permission sought and granted]:

I feel frustrated for being grieved about this too. I keep waiting for it to pass. I think, I’ll get over it, forgive and forget. It won’t bug me, etc.. hasn’t happened yet in the last 2 years. If anything, it’s intensified. I heard Hybels of Willow Creek talk on a topic called ‘holy discontent’. He said, if there is some issue out there that you can’t lose, there is probably a reason. It’s your ‘holy discontent’. God wants you to use it to do something. Don’t let it embitter you, use it for his glory. So, I rest in that. Perhaps it’s not so awful that the issue is staying with me. Perhaps it will make me more sensitive to people who are oppressed, judged, stereotyped. Perhaps, it will make me a better Christian.

Jon Trott has a recent posting of his struggle with anger in a post called Cornerstone Festival and Christians for Biblical Equality and he says it quite well:

In my own case, my anger seems more often to end in something destructive, esp. when I think I’m right about something. But after listening to Sarah, and then during Q and A offering what I (and not Julia, so she doesn’t get in trouble) called “the evangelical enablement of a rape culture,” I was left thinking about anger’s positive aspects. As one friend (a woman pastor, appropriately!) told me later after listening to my reflections, William Barclay writes regarding Jesus’ words on anger in the Sermon on the Mount that (her words), “When we are angry on behalf of someone else, there’s a much better chance that anger is constructive, godly anger, than when we’re angry on behalf of ourselves.” Yes, something like that.

How hard it is to think of others. But if we do, we not only satisfy Jesus’ command to love our neighbor, but we also better channel our anger. God might even change it to joy because we’ll be in the center of His will along with our holy discontent.

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Comment by sally

July 23, 2006 @ 2:48 am

I have real trouble with not getting so angry and mad about this issue that I end up crying and almost incoherent.

This week I’m in a Bible study looking at ‘those’ verses. I asked my dad to pray for me. He said, “What do you want me to pray?” My first reply was “that I won’t get too angry.” But then I changed it to “no, that I’ll be able to speak clearly and make myself understood in a loving way.”

My counsellor, in response to my question asking how I could not ‘get so angry’ about it, said, “What’s wrong with showing your emotions? You obviously have them. There’s nothing wrong with it.”

I guess the key thing is to not speak ‘reactively’ - when the trigger words and phrases come up, take a deep breath and see if I can see what the question really is, and what the person is really trying to say.

Pray for me!

Comment by Kathryn

July 23, 2006 @ 7:58 pm

Anger can be a positive thing, a sign that there is a sense that something is wrong and we need to change it. Godly anger may be a sign that the Holy Spirit is grieved about a particular situation or issue, especially injustice. Rest in the promises of God concerning that particular issue. Do it before the sun goes down. We can take positive action concerning Biblical equality and then rest assured that lives are being changed when we believe in God’s promises. Remember that “faith without works is dead” (James 2:17), so we must add positive action to our faith. Putting Christian egalitarian books and magazines in church-and public-libraries (and other public places) is a great way to take positive action and strenghthen your faith, expecially if the church is complementarian. Seek out good news on this subject whereever you can find it (within a godly context, of course). I speak from experience. I can really relate to the emotions described by Sally in comment #1, having been there a lot of times. I’ve learned what to do.

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