What Do Women Get Out of It?
Let’s try to concentrate for a moment on the complementarian viewpoint as the more recent theologians have framed it and not on the more fringe (and mostly earlier) elements that are anti-education for women. I think that these more recent formulations of the hierarchical position still have in mind some golden picture of the “holy wife” or “holy female church worker” who submits to her husband and (male) pastor while they defer (never submit) to her (out of love for the weaker vessel, an equal heir in Christ, whether wife or congregrant) and love her as Christ loved the Church. [I know, I'm making a leap here that pastors are supposed to love the Church as Christ loved the Church, but then, although I've never actually seen it, I do think that some of them actually try.]
The question I’ve never been able to understand is, “What do women get out of a faithful following of the complementarian position?” I understand what men get out of it — the power to have the final word and the power to say that God says this and not that. The practical outcome for women is not so rosy, and those results, to me, always seem to have the adjectival qualifyer “diminutive” coloring them. Can she say with authority, “The Holy Spirit is telling me this, even though it contradicts what you (the male) are saying the Holy Spirit is telling you”? If not, then she is not an equal heir in Christ, able to act on the freedom in Christ that Paul is so fond of teaching about. She is someone who needs “special care,” like a child or mentally defective adult. How is it that this picture of women is “golden?” I’m sorry, but I really don’t get it.