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Devil with the Blue Dress

Filed under: Family, Feminism, Gender Equality — Brandon at 12:47 pm on Thursday, August 17, 2006

Sometimes the simplest conversations can turn out to be the most complicated. Take for example, the insistence of a relative of mine that a woman should accept her husband’s last name in deference to his headship. Even though I pointed out that the idea of a surname is a relatively recent invention in human history—not even addressed by Scripture—the conversation meandered into several uncomfortable moments leaving him to resolve it by admitting he just preferred it. There was a certain quaintness and comfort in the tradition from which he wasn’t yet ready to part. Admittedly, I understood, even if I disagreed.

While egalitarians are often accused by patriarchalists of capitulating to culture and its demands, there is no doubt in my mind that this is a trap from which the patriarchal side cannot boast freedom. For example, after coming across a website that sold “modest clothing”—which as it turns out requires Victorian clothing patterns—I found that “virtuous” women wear bonnets or that godly women prefer floral prints. Of course, if one prefers ruffles and lace, then by all means, fill the dresser drawers. That is not a problem. The problem I found was an idolizing of a culture of the past, an infusion of the days-gone-by with images of virtue and the insinuation that only the clothing of a particular era or only those who looked a certain way were truly godly.

I was then reminded of a full-page ad I once saw for a conservative Christian boarding school in a leading conservative evangelical magazine. The image used stock photography of a smiling and pleasant looking blond-haired woman, sporting some smart black glasses and a black business suit. The tag line for the school was something like, “Do you want this woman to be your child’s advisor?” What seemed to be implied was that the kind of woman who wears a business suit and takes her career seriously is probably in some way evil, corrupted, or a feminist seeking to destroy your children’s morals.

There is a serious danger when one invests virtue in mere appearance. Whether it is long hair and dresses or power suits, virtue is not in the packaging. That is why I cringe when a perfume labeled “Virtuous Woman” is being sold at the Christian Retail Show. How can virtue be captured in a scent?

I’m reminded of Flannery O’ Connor’s classic short story, Good Country People, in which Manley Pointer, a used Bible salesman from “Willohobie, not even from a place, just near a place,” came knocking on Joy-Hulga Hopewell’s door selling Bibles. Joy-Hulga lost her leg in a hunting accident and spent her life mourning her displacement from society by burying herself in her schooling and earning her Ph.D. A Bible salesman didn’t really impress her, she long lost her belief in God and boasted a new “born-again” freedom in nihilism.

As a “good country” person, Pointer won the trust of Joy-Hulga’s mother, and found himself a guest at their dinner table for the evening. He also managed to win a taste of Joy-Hulga’s lips and maneuver her into a date in a hayloft. After his incessant begging, she gave in to Pointer’s request to see how her wooden leg attached. She took it off and put it back on. Then he took it off and put it back on. This happened repeatedly until he removed it and pushed it away from her.

Now somewhat frightened, Joy-Hulga watched as Manley pulled his Bible out of his briefcase. To her surprise it was hollow, containing a flask, a deck of playing cards, and an assortment of unsavory items. And then it hit her, “aren’t you just good country people?” she asked in shock.

“Come on now,” said Manley avoiding the question and moving uncomfortably closer, “we ain’t got to know one another good yet.” Joy-Hulga tried pushing away and demanding her leg back, but Manley thought she protested too much for a woman who “didn’t believe in nothing.”

“You’re a Christian!” she hissed. “You’re a fine Christian! You’re just like them all—say one thing and do another. You’re a perfect Christian, you’re…”

Manley tossed his Bible and her wooden leg back in the briefcase, and climbed out of the loft. “I’ve gotten a lot of interesting things,” he bragged, “one time I got a woman’s glass eye this way.”

O’Connor’s point is ultimately about Hulga’s nihilism and the wooden leg is an example of her usual literary tool representing the human condition known as “the grotesque.” With the theft of her leg, came the theft of her belief in nothing, for only something could hurt like that. Even more, as he disappeared for the last time, the Bible salesman turned to Joy-Hulga and said smirkingly, “you ain’t so smart. I been believing in nothing ever since I was born.” Her lesson came at the hands of one who looked and talked like “good country people” but on the inside his heart was as wooden as the leg.

Try as we may to define persons by our standards, the human heart is where we find the real person and it is a treacherous place. Christ came to save sinners, we would do well to remember that no amount of window dressing, whether by clothing or perfume, can do what only he can accomplish.

We aren’t always able to separate what we believe culturally from the actual truth. And at times, people intentionally use cultural identifiers to make a statement. But don’t be fooled, while the devil may have the blue dress on, there are both floral dresses and power suits in his closet as well.

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Flannery O’Connor, “Good Country People,” in Heritage of American Literature: Civil War to the Present, Vol. 2, ed. By James E. Miller, Jr. and Kathleen Farley (New York: Harcourt Brace College Publishers, 1991), 1917-1929. All quotations are to this edition.

12 Comments »

Comment by TeriLynn

August 17, 2006 @ 1:02 pm

Well said, some of the most devastating wounds of the soul have come from one Christian to another.

And often I am amazed, appalled, and taken back by the harsh prejudices that all the ism’s of the church seek to impose on the rest of the body.

Comment by stacey

August 17, 2006 @ 3:33 pm

I just had to post quickly to say I too heard about this “Virtuous Woman” perfume, and it didn’t occur to me until now to find it hilarious. I can’t see a Virtous Woman perfume. Maybe a floor wax. Is Virtuous Woman some kind of Christian Mrs. Butterworth? Can you picture someone spraying on some Virtuous Woman before they go on a date? It’s like a Saturday Night Live sketch.

Comment by Light M.

August 18, 2006 @ 8:26 am

Be sure to wear Virtuous Woman perfume when you put on the Armor of God. ;)

Comment by Psalmist in Texas

August 18, 2006 @ 11:14 pm

In all seriousness, there are patriarchalists who declare that it is an exclusively masculine responsibility to battle the forces of evil; Jesus creates manly men like himself to fight that fight (and all others). Women must never deny their feminine “role” by fighting, even spiritually.

So for women: “Virtuous Woman” eau de stinque, good. “Full Armor of God,” bad.

Not that I’m buying that thoroughly non-biblical line–or “Virtuous Woman” scent, either. I have an allergic reaction to most perfumes. Does that make me a “Woman without Virtue?” :)

Comment by Mindy

August 19, 2006 @ 11:21 am

Brandon, thank you for your perceptive reading of O’Connor. The human heart is so self-deceptive! Thank God that he reveals our heart issues one layer at a time, or we would be irreparably devastated by the “assortment of unsavory items” buried within ourselves. Only the Spirit of God can strip away our cultural limitations and teach us to recognize his truth and speak it to one another in love.

Stacey, I think you’re on to something with the virtuous floor wax. Trademark it and get on the phone with the perfume people!

Comment by Brandon

August 21, 2006 @ 9:15 am

On the note of men being the “fighters:” women are sometimes considered incapable of doing spiritual battle by patriarchalists because they are believed to be less prone “to identifying heresy,” as one put it. That is another unfounded, but deeply ingrained cultural perception that affects the interpretation of Scripture and is then re-told to some women from their earliest years.

Maybe I should start a “Virtuous Male” cologne, or “Scent of a Warrior.” :)

Comment by Psalmist in Texas

August 22, 2006 @ 9:46 am

LOL, Brandon! C’mon…manly men don’t wear that “stinky stuff.” Don’t you know the pink and blue rules? :D

When I see what passes for solid biblical interpretation among some (mostly male) pro-patriarchy Christians, I see very little solid discernment of heresy. A fair bit of promoting heresy and a whole lot of promoting questionable doctrine and practice, but very little discernment of heresy. Their promotion of the “eternal subordination of the Son” types of “doctrines” (simply because without it, defense of patriarchy as biblical would largely fall apart) is a good case in point.

Comment by Douglas LeBlanc

August 22, 2006 @ 11:48 am

Please consider adjusting your blog’s template to indicate the author of a post, which is of far more interest to me (as a writer) than which categories the post is filed under. I mention this because when a writer uses the first-person voice, it helps to know who the first person is.

Otherwise, many thanks for launching this blog. I love the stained-glass logo.

Comment by Francine I Erre

August 24, 2006 @ 2:29 pm

I had to quit laughing about the “virtuous woman” perfume before commenting. The sad part of it is apparently most of them (including us) have not looked the word virtuous up in their “Brown-Driver-Briggs” Hebrew Lexicon. It is a masuline noun that is normally translated as army, great host (another word for army), mighty men of valor, etc. The only time it is translated as virtuous is in the three (actually four) verses when it had to do with women. It probably should be translated as “Who can find a mighty woman of Valor? for her praise is far above rubies.” No wonder this type of woman is so hard to find even today. A woman that will stand up and be counted for God and help fight the battles He has given her. Maybe we need to come out with one of our own or simply rename “Virtuous Woman” Perfume to the “Woman of Valor” scent.
It is amazing how one word translated wrong (and uncorrected) for centuries can cause so many problems.

Comment by LJR

August 25, 2006 @ 6:44 pm

Re: comment #9, Francine: I did not know that piece of translation info. Thank you! :D

Comment by Lori

August 28, 2006 @ 6:27 am

In reference to that website that sold Victorian clothing as “proper” for Christian women, that reminds me of something. On another egalitarian forum where I belong, somebody posted this link to a blog written by a really angry, ranting comp. He was calling on men to emulate the OT prophets who dared to preach God’s judgment. He also called for men to start venerating women again.

That last bit really jumped out at me. “Venerate” is normally used to describe the worship of a saint. Is that how we also want to treat women, as something to be worshipped? Also, this attitude of putting a woman on a pedestal and worshipping them has been used for centuries by men to keep women “in their place.” In medieval times, a knight in shining armor would worship his fair lady from afar. Of course, the women had to remain pure, while the men felt free to run around and sleep with whomever they wanted. A graphic example of this attitude can be found in one of the early Princes of Wales. He caught his wife having an affair and banished her to a convent in disgrace. However, he himself had had mistresses before and nobody every thought to question it. That’s just what men did back then.

In Victorian times, the “angel of the house” was expected to set a shining example of morality for her family, while the husband was free to indulge in sexual sin. I recently watched a documentary about the Victorian era. They talked about this British woman in India who had an affair with a native. Her husband caught them and nearly beat her to death. In order to keep from being disgraced in the eyes of British society, she accused the native of raping her and even testified to that under oath. The poor native man went to jail for a crime he didn’t commit, while, to the rest of the world, this woman and her family lived “happily ever after” as the model family.

With all due respect to this blog writer, I don’t want to be worshipped or venerated; I want to be respected. And I don’t want my husband calling down the wrath of God like some OT prophet. I would rather he follow the example of Jesus and model humility, servanthood, and compassion.

Comment by Moderator

September 18, 2006 @ 10:11 am

Re comment #8: Great idea, Douglas. I just changed the post template to match the main template so both now show the author instead of the categories.

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