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Is Gender Stereotyping Hurting Boys Academically?

Written by: on Saturday, September 5, 2009

According to a well-known Christian author, the feminization of schools is to blame for the decreasing grades and academic skill levels of boys over the past few decades. The implication is that a feminizing of schools has redesigned them to teach girls more effectively than boys. Jim Trelease, who advocates for improving children’s literacy, has reached a different conclusion in his book The Read-Aloud Handbook.[1]

“I propose there’s been one significant change in the value system of the male culture. What entered the system between 1970 and 2000? Try ESPN and round-the-clock sports.” (pg. xxii)

“The boy who only sees his father focusing on athletics, who lives in a home or culture where it’s all sports all the time, will allot far less value and time to school than to athletics. The end result has been higher sports scores, lower school scores.” (pg. xxiii)

Taking Trelease’s proposal another step further, I believe that it is the polarizing of what is considered masculine behavior versus feminine behavior that may have branded reading as a feminine activity. Boys seem to be receiving the message that “reading is for girls.” And if boys have been taught not to “run like a girl,” “throw like a girl,” or “cry like a girl,” why would they want to read like a girl? Using the phrase “like a girl” as an insult teaches boys to make negative associations with anything relating to females. The flinging of these types of phrases may well be boomeranging back to hurt males in unintended ways.

Any activity that becomes viewed as girlish, or unmanly, stigmatizes it for many boys. So instead of a feminizing of our schools hurting boys academically, I submit that creating negative associations for boys with anything perceived as being feminine may be a large part of the problem. In recent decades, a shift has occurred in American schools. For a long time, prescribed gender roles hurt many girls academically. Now societal gender confinements may be limiting the academic success of boys who try to fit inside these boundaries.

While this is a complex issue with many factors contributing to these trends, I believe that eliminating gender stereotypes and expectations can help to even out the academic achievement of both sexes. When girls were told that boys naturally did better in math than girls, this often became a self-fulfilling prophecy. Why try hard when it isn’t in your genes? Parents and teachers who reinforced these messages often helped to increase this cause and effect relationship. Several times I have heard the message that boys’ brains are wired better for math while girls’ brains are wired better for reading taught at church as well as in Christian books. According to a 2008 study, the gender gap has closed for math scores on standardized tests in the United States.[2] Apparently there never was an innate difference in math aptitude between the sexes. So perhaps another detrimental effect of gender stereotyping may be that boys are receiving the message that girls are intrinsically better in verbal skills than boys. If boys are hearing these messages from parents, teachers, and pastors, they might be acting upon these beliefs.

As Christians we should be promoting the intrinsic worth and value of all people. We have all been created in God’s image.

“So God created human beings in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them.” (Genesis 1:27 TNIV)

“Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves.”  (Romans 12:10 TNIV)

Both genders can reap rewards if we will teach and practice equal levels of honor and respect for males and females and by eliminating negative stereotyping.

  1. Trelease, Jim. The Read-Aloud Handbook. New York: Penguin Books, 2001. []
  2. http://www.nytimes.com/2008/07/25/education/25math.html?_r=2 []

15 Comments »

Comment by Donald Guffey

September 5, 2009 @ 6:51 pm

As a teacher I can say that this indeed disturbs me. For starters all one needs to do is look at the sports scene in local schools; look at the hype boy’s teams receive as opposed to girls’ teams and also look at the emphasis placed on athletics to see that the schools have not been feminized, but rather they are trying to become, perish the thought, academic! I believe the author made a wonderful observation in that it’s not that boys are wired differently for school performance and are hence not getting their needs met in a feminized school, but rather it’s the emphasis placed on education in the home. Living in the deep south I see this across the gender board. Some families in the deep south still see education as either pointless ( my child can just work in the factory like the rest of us or take over the family business) or they don’t see a way they could ever afford college expenses so emphasis is placed on learning a trade. Also it is still a norm somewhat for men and women from my generation to be the first in their families to go to college or some maybe even to graduate high school! So it boils down to how much do the parents of any given child, male or female value education. Also I would like to add that parent involvement in children’s education is more than just saying
“do your homework or you’re grounded”- rather a parent should take an active role in their children’s schooling and showing that it’s important. This means maybe missing football games ( please don’t go into cardiac arrest on me) if grades drop. Children also need significant play time. We in America do over value test scores so we keep children inside all day long sitting at a desk and if they speak out of turn we give them silent lunch so they can’t even socialize and we wonder why test scores are dropping! For goodness sake stop blaming it on gender and give less homework and ring the darn recess bell ^_^ !!!

Comment by Mark Baker-Wright

September 5, 2009 @ 7:18 pm

When I was in school (nearly two decades ago!), I was a part of an “advanced” program, designed for the more academically gifted students. It did indeed seem to me that there were more girls (I normally wouldn’t use that word, but since I AM talking under-18 in this context!) than boys, but I really don’t recall any explicit acknowledgment of that. On the other hand, I did (and do!) see plenty of stereotyping that says “boys are better at X” and “girls are better at Y” that strangely seems to work both ways even within academic subjects. The “Math is hard” Barbie debacle, for example, came after my school days, even while I can totally resonate with “reading is for girls” ideals being transmitted at about that same time. How all this shakes out, I don’t pretend to know, but it’s certainly worth talking about.

Comment by jlp

September 5, 2009 @ 10:56 pm

I work with more boys than girls in the school I work in. I find the boys to be every bit as articulate as girls. I can’t figure out where the idea came from that boys are not as good at verbal expression as girls are.

Comment by joanne

September 6, 2009 @ 10:00 pm

I have been disturbed by this for a long time. glad it is being addressed. It has bothered me that some propose that reading is feminine. Reading is for everyone and without ability to read… how will young men become critical thinkers.

i think they are short changed.

I have noticed in the church that men won’t read books, for bible study or self-growth… reading is often a source for growth and new ideas. Why wouldn’t we want to create a climate and culture that is supportive of reading.

Comment by Donald Guffey

September 7, 2009 @ 8:45 am

Just a short thought to Joanne’s comment about men not reading for Bible Studies and such. I was just thinking that because reading was not emphasized for them that maybe they had some reading problems that weren’t addressed and that many men wouldn’t read something to cover up the fact that maybe they can’t read it or read it well. I have seen a couple of guys who slipped through the cracks so this wouldn’t surprise me a bit.

Comment by Liz

September 7, 2009 @ 3:02 pm

Same in Australia…..both women and men can have reading and comprehension difficulties so avoid bible studies and courses where answers have to be written.
It would be more the case with men though and like the post suggested, reading is not a pastime which is encouraged in many boys growing up.

Comment by Amanda

September 7, 2009 @ 11:13 pm

I am so glad for this post. Even if it were true that more men were better at math and more women were better at language, why should it matter? That has no bearing whatever on an individual man or woman. It doesn’t make math manly and reading girly.

However, I have long suspected that such divisions were completely artificial and culturally-induced to begin with. Thanks for sharing.

One of my closest female friends is a math major. My male neighbor is a linguist. Go figure, right?

Comment by Larhanya

September 8, 2009 @ 2:03 pm

Historically, there were more boys in school than girls. Does that mean that classrooms were bereft of books, lacking in literary education, and lax in the discipline of sitting still and listening well? Far from it! Schools of the age that predate female students were strict, had very high standards for literary education (including reading not only English, but Greek and Latin as well), and I think the image of the schoolboy with his belt of books dangling from his hand speaks for itself.

But then girls were allowed to go to school. And it turned out they were rather surprisingly good at it. They were good at reading, languages, sitting still, and, once they were allowed to be, they were very good at math (one of my undergrad pals is doing her PhD in quantum physics right now).

I think Mr. Trelease hit the nail on the head with his assessment of the rise of sports idolatry in N. American culture. Boys are now stereotyped as “active” instead of “passive” as if this excused them from sitting still and paying attention. And if boys can’t pay attention and sit still, then our current educational system must be flawed!

“Both genders can reap rewards if we will teach and practice equal levels of honor and respect for males and females and by eliminating negative stereotyping.”
Amen to that!

Comment by Liz

September 10, 2009 @ 6:57 pm

Thanks for your honesty Hubert. I think your story will be helpful to many readers.

Comment by Robyn

September 17, 2009 @ 11:16 am

This reminds me of how I try to tell people that Patriarchy hurts men just as much as it hurts women. Gender stereotypes and forced “roles” deny men the fullness of their humanity and the opportunity to explore various gifts. By buying into some kind of message that “boys don’t like to read,” parents and teachers can reinforce a false dichotomy between boys and girls.

FWIW, I’m a teacher and a parent. Since the day of my child’s birth, my husband and I (both avid readers) have been committed to reading to/with her every single day. This, in itself, I hope will instill in her a love of reading.

Comment by Deborah

September 26, 2009 @ 1:39 pm

I grew up in Ny./Nj. and now live in the midsouth. It was a shock for me to come across a pervasive idea in the church here that Christians probably should not go to college, especially not one of the more intellectual colleges, at the risk of adopting the spirit of this age or an intellectual spirit. Granted, there is much to wade through at most universities, but are we just to abscond higher learning, our witness within it, and the doors that open because of it to non-Christians? Can we not trust God in all humility to teach us what it means to love Him with all our MINDS? So I’ve come across this for both men and women but with the ADDED idea that women should not venture there b/c of how that would put them above the general male population whom they need to lead them.

I remember when I was befriending one woman here, the first real conversation she had with me (which was meant to reassure me) was not to worry, that she too had gone to college (albeit a much less intellectual one) and liked learning even though many people told her it was inappropriate to go to college and that she thought it was “okay” as long as one did not adopt an “intellectual spirit” which it soon became clear she suspected I had. She was trying to tell me that she did not judge me as much as other people did and that she thought I might be a safe friend despite my being different, but the conversation initially just produced shock.

One of the problems I see in this area is that the poor reading comprehension of the general population makes for a lot of poor handling of the Word, a lot of misapplications to lives and an inability to analyze it critically. The men are supposed to lead the way in the study of the Word here, but few of them have better reading comp and critical analysis skills than the women b/c of the undervaluing of education and may often have far less due to the idea of reading as feminine discussed above. They may memorize scriptures, etc., but once you’ve been here long enough to see the general trends in teaching, etc. it gets pretty disturbing.

As for the question as to whether there is a gender difference for math/verbal/language skills: I do believe there is some gender difference seen in which skills which sex tends to take to more quickly. But a comprehensive study…. (will continue, furnace guy here)

Comment by Deborah

September 26, 2009 @ 2:14 pm

To clarify, the woman mentioned above brought up the topic of my education herself (which I had never thought terribly fancy until moving here… if they only knew I have my eyes on grad school!) as though it were a very obvious area of concern, making it the first order of conversation for us, when I was as yet rather naive about southern ideas and didn’t anticipate that with her intelligence and curiosity it would even be a blip.

Back to gender differences in aptitude. A large scale, collaborative study reveals that although there are differences,

The way all women differ from all men is less predictive, provocative, and universal than we might think…. In statistical terms, 85 percent of the area overlaps. …The difference is actually so slight, that knowing a person’s gender has little to no predictive power in nearly 80 percent of psychological matters. And indeed, areas of difference, such as self-esteem (men, unsurprisingly, tend to have higher self-esteem than women), may be due to family culture, environment, or personality, not to an essential difference in our souls. (p 72-73 Ruby Slippers: How the Soul of a Woman Brings Her Home by Jonalyn Grace Fincher)

This study actually looked at such stereotyped areas as visual-spatial ability, aggressiveness, math skills, verbal skills, etc. Differences in stereotyped areas were very slim. And of course individual ranges vary enough as to not only close but reverse the seeming areas of difference if you just look at two individuals.

Fincher does go on in her book, however, to talk about some gender distinctions she sees for some but not all women. She’s an egal woman who likes examining the mystery of complementarity. I don’t agree with everything she says but share her interest in carefully exploring gender distinctions as well as similarities to enrich the picture of “complementarity without hierarchy.”

It is very sad wherever gender stereotyping and pressures might encourage men in our society not to develop in the language arts. What is bad for women is clearly bad for men.

Comment by Deborah

September 26, 2009 @ 2:34 pm

p.s.–When I talk about analyzing the Word critically, I do not mean being critical of the Word’s authority but applying critical thinking to how we handle it: making proper connections between passages, rethinking presuppositions or poor (and dangerous) life applications, sometimes just even interpreting individual sentences, etc. I believe the Word is for simple people every bit as much as philosophical or intellectual folks and that we will all get some things wrong and some things right, so we need the richness of what every member from every background brings to the mix, and that we don’t need to have our panties in a knot over everything. But, wow, I’ve been shocked by what I’ve come across and the implications for lives, perhaps partially b/c what is handed down and absorbed has not been a responsible reading for so long that maybe we cannot step out of it w/o the skills, curiosity, and courage education gives us. And I don’t just mean on gender issues. I never understood the desperate need for there to be leaders in the mix who have training on these fronts until I lived here. It sort of reminds me of scriptures which may appear to limit women’s contributions precisely because of their lack of education and preparedness in their cultural sphere.

Comment by Deborah

September 26, 2009 @ 2:49 pm

I’m sorry if portions of that were not totally on topic. I see all the topics as intertwined, though, and wanted to point out that where I am, I see some of the gender stereotyping in learning (e.g., reading for girls) but also an overall low view of learning and (in contrast to the first point) a desire not to have the girls as educated as the boys for fear that they would abandon their roles or be unsuitable to suitors. So I am seeing a contradictory and complex mixture of influences placing varied expectations on both genders and holding them both back. Ironically, I live in a city that houses a state college, though not a terribly competitive one. Some of the church youth have attended, one girl even in the sciences, but still, these overt prejudices exist and are sometimes, if not frequently, voiced.

Comment by John

September 12, 2011 @ 6:39 pm

Not huge on religion but this article grabbed my attention and i was happily surprised when it was an intelligent christian and not the news propaganda type. thats said…

I graduated high school in 06. one of our stereotypes was that girls were smarter at school stuff in general. We had way more female teachers than males (i’d like to see the feminists address this…but i’m smarter than holding my breath.)

If i had a $1 for every time i heard the female teacher tell the entire class something along the lines of “you go girls” or “girl power” I wouldn’t need to pay for college. I was at a public school in the north and it was considered college prep style. It’s important to note that this year there are more female undergrad students than males in college, yet the feminists continue to preach that they are far behind.

I think as the author noted it’s time we end gender stereotyping. I believe in equality and would die for true equality but i can’t help but feel that the women who call themselves feminists truly have it out for men. How can a group that fights to “empower” one side ever create true equality? History has shown repetitively that absolute power corrupts absolutely. If you give women power over men a % of them will be just as evil as the % of bad men that did purposely keep them down.

Back to school… there have been studies that show stereotypes do effect the outcomes. Feminists have been bitching about this for years when it comes to women but no one is standing up for your average white boys or intelligent people in general.

If you are smart as either gender you have to hide it or face a level of social rejection. As others have said the focus is on sports… we are becoming like theRomans and this won’t end well. The other focus is on pop culture and material “bling”. Knowledge and knowing how to apply it is only cool if you can use it to directly impress and then talk about your sports or pop culture. It’s like a side dish to the main course of brain dead consumer existence.

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