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Dear Complementarian

Dear Complementarian: If you embrace the theological position that God the Son is eternally (read “permanently”) subordinate to God the Father and then ground your belief that submission of the wife to the husband is permanently true because of this theological position, then what does this text mean? At the resurrection people will neither marry […]

The Historical Fallacy of an Inconsistent Ethical Evaluation

One states, “It has not been the practice of the church that women can be bishops.” The other responds, “Well, what about Bishop Theodora?” Perhaps you are familiar with such a conversation. One presents a practice in church history, and the other responds by giving a counter-example. Both are responding according to the logic that […]

Do I Tell Her?

A few years ago, a prominent Midwest pastor was featured in a brief biopic about his coming to grips with racially charged childhood experiences in South Carolina during the 1950’s and 1960’s.  It is a moving story of law and gospel:  confession of complicity with the racist perspectives—the “cesspool of sin”–ironies that immersed his childhood, […]

Excalibur: Double Standards or Double-edged?

When I relocated to Durban from my native Cape Town in South Africa, I started attending a charismatic church after some months in the city. I visited other groups and churches and tried to broaden my Christian fellowship network outside of my own community of faith. In doing this, something dawned upon me. Women were […]

Why (Most) Complementarians Should Be Pacifists

I believe that (most) complementarians should be pacifists.* Consider the following passages: A woman should learn in quietness and full submission. I do not permit a woman to teach or to assume authority over a man; she must be quiet. For Adam was formed first, then Eve. And Adam was not the one deceived; it was the […]

Where’s the Line? A Personal Journey Toward Equality

A while back a friend asked me my thoughts on gender issues and, particularly, a certain prominent “complementarian” organization. Here’s what I had to share about my personal journey: In high school and college I was a sure “complementarian,” based on arguments such as those of such of the organization alluded to above and the […]

Punch in the Nose

My little boy started preschool this year and picked out a pink backpack with flowers. At first I was hesitant to let him have it for fear that he would be teased, but decided that if we were truly going to be egalitarians we had to take that risk. Concerned, I asked him what he […]