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The Christian Walk

Some readers of The CBE Scroll will be surprised to learn of the variety of strongly-held opinions regarding who has the right of way when hiking. Hikers with an opinion are evenly divided between two primary points of view. First, many believe that when two hikers meet, the person hiking uphill has the right of […]

Wives, ‘Respect’ Your Husbands

From time to time we hear of the responsibilities outlined in Ephesians 5 verses 22 – 33 concerning husbands and wives respectively. Often the language gets reduced to a catch phrase like, “women want to be loved and men need respect.” It is as if this phrase defines all women and all men for all […]

Mom’s Night Out: A Laugh and a Lost Opportunity

Reviewed by Sandra Glahn (Twitter: @sandraglahn) Moms’ Night Out, starring Sarah Drew (“Grey’s Anatomy”) opens Friday, May 9—right in time for Mother’s Day weekend. Drew’s character, Allyson, and her two friends—played with expert delivery by Logan White and Patricia Heaton—want just one thing: a peaceful night out eating food off a menu while enjoying uninterrupted […]

Tie-Breaker

“Wives, submit to your husbands,” says Ephesians 5:22. Just be careful not to commit idolatry while you’re submitting. The complementarians I know insist that husbands and wives should listen to each other and make big decisions together. The purpose, they say, of Paul’s instruction to wives is to prevent paralysis in decision-making. If the husband […]

If Men Give Love to Get Sex

This article appears in the Spring 2014 issue of Mutuality. If you like what you read, consider subscribing or purchasing a CBE membership. Micah J. Murray writes about church and culture at Redemption Pictures, A Deeper Story, and the Huffington Post. Follow him on Twitter @micahjmurray. I’ve always wanted to get it right the first time. I don’t like […]

Reframing Biblical Masculinity

This article is the editorial from the Spring 2014 issue of Mutuality. If you like what you read, consider subscribing or purchasing a CBE membership. Tim Krueger is the editor of Mutuality. You can find him on Twitter @kruegertw. Several months ago, my wife and I attended an event where a panel of experts spoke […]

Power and the Brain

As an egalitarian I often write and speak on the importance of equality within male-female relationships. I do so because I strongly believe that power inequity prevents each partner from being all God calls him or her to be. Inequality diminishes everyone: those with power and those without. I hadn’t realized until recently, however, that […]

Dear Complementarian

Dear Complementarian: If you embrace the theological position that God the Son is eternally (read “permanently”) subordinate to God the Father and then ground your belief that submission of the wife to the husband is permanently true because of this theological position, then what does this text mean? At the resurrection people will neither marry […]

Additional Modern Marriage Concerns

I would like make some additional observations on the topic of Modern Marriage Concerns by taking up a statement I made in the closing paragraphs of a previous post on this subject. “I for one do not want to go back to gender hierarchy but I can readily understand it if my complementarian friends are […]

Modern Marriage Concerns

It would seem that my wife and I have come from a vastly different background to modern-day egalitarians who have grown up in a more secular egalitarian culture. What I mean by that is that we arrived at a stance of biblical equality after having been deeply enculturated in evangelical conservatism. While the church in […]

What are We Risking?

This post originally appeared on September 12, 2013 on the blog of House2House Magazine: house2housemagazine.com/2013/09/12/what-are-we-risking-by-christa-mckirland. Growing up in the South, being Southern Baptist, and even serving on staff at a few institutional churches, the issue of “gender roles” has always been on the forefront of my mind. At twenty, I had the opportunity to serve at […]

Do the Five Love Languages Love Women Too? (Part 1 of 2)

I haven’t thought much about Gary Chapman’s The Five Love Languages in a long time, but recently my Family Life Education class did a presentation on this subject.  I tend to see most evangelical book empires of that sort as an attempt by publishers to cash in on an author’s popularity, and I am not a big […]

Where’s the Line? A Personal Journey Toward Equality

A while back a friend asked me my thoughts on gender issues and, particularly, a certain prominent “complementarian” organization. Here’s what I had to share about my personal journey: In high school and college I was a sure “complementarian,” based on arguments such as those of such of the organization alluded to above and the […]

Profound Submission

Few things bring me more joy than seeing the gospel incarnated in the different cultures of our world, and few things shed more light on the gospel. Each culture has the potential to reveal something of the nature of God and his love. I was reminded of this recently when I read two accounts about […]

My Marriage Bond: From Stratified to Unified

Three tightly intertwining strands create a strong cord.   The well-known words in Ecclesiastes — “a cord of three strands is not quickly broken” (Eccles. 4:12b) — are often used to create a visual icon in our minds of the marriage bond. If “a picture is worth a thousand words,” then this simple graphic can […]

From “Frenemies” to Friends Indeed

by Amy J. Chase As I grow older, I relate to the Bible as I do my long term friends. Some friends I can remember in their teens, then twenties, and thirties. I remember the struggles we have faced over the years, the victories we have celebrated together, and how our values have grown and […]

The Parsonage: House Boyfriends

This week, the CBE Scroll features a series called “The Parsonage,” written by CBE Intern Krista Wilson, who is currently a student at Bethel University in St. Paul, MN. In it, she writes about her experiences living with a group of women who have felt God’s call to minister in the church. Enjoy! With six unmarried […]

Don’t Waste Your Infertility: Gender and the Hard Lessons of Life

When you have no children and you want them, you tend to notice (and covet) the children of others everywhere. Walking down the streets of Chicago, I’ve seen crack addicts use their kids as selling points for donations from passersby. We’d hear of every tragic family relationship—women tossing children in dumpsters for one—and wonder if […]

Wedding Vows

Over recent years we have observed what we consider an alarming trend among young couples as they make the huge step of making vows in the wedding ceremony before their family and friends. These young people so sincerely are promising to “lovingly lead” (the guy) and “willingly submit” (the girl) Do they think through what […]

Androgyny

Whenever I talk about androgyny in class, many of my students are surprised to learn what the term encompasses. They have often seen it presented in an unattractive light, believing it to say something about a person’s lack of femininity or masculinity, kind of an elimination of anything that defines an individual as male or […]

When Marriage Isn’t Mutual

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Finding oneself married to a non-egalitarian spouse, whether male or female, can be a challenging road to navigate. Consider these case studies. Norma and Charlie: It was love at first sight. Norma and Charlie’s eyes, in all actuality, met “across a crowded room” at their conservative denomination’s annual meeting. Life for the Browns began, as […]

What Are You Up To?

“Where?” I asked Angela (not her real name).  Our kids are in the same ballet class.  Seated next to her in the parent peanut gallery the other day as “Simon Legree la Ballet Instructor” put the class through Arabesques, Pliés and other Baryshnikov-isms, Angela saw I was reading from Galatians.  One observation led to others […]

‘Wing to Wing and Oar to Oar’

If he had said so a few years ago, I would’ve smiled and nodded.  Today, however, I blinked, smiled sweetly and asked my friend to explain. Bart (not his real name) was telling me about his role as “family priest.”  I told him why I disagreed.  Now, I like Bart.  He’s a well-spoken, gregarious fifty-something […]

Is That Really ‘The Biblical Model’?

“He didn’t protect me,” Nan said of her husband, Blaine (not their real names).  Eyes clouding, Nan related how an “insensitive” male supervisor engaged in “ungracious” behavior and the effect it had on her emotionally. I sipped my raspberry iced tea and listened, asking questions here and there in an attempt to ascertain some salient […]

Willingly or Under Compulsion?

Each of you should give what you have decided in your heart to give, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver (2 Cor. 9:7 TNIV). Some hierarchical teachers stress that submission is a choice and cannot be forced. When a husband is careful to never force or coerce his wife to […]