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Poem: A Brew Comes Forth

 From earthly senses, dwells a brew Calling itself truth; It denies God’s Righteous burning And look! See the turning? Turning away from Him who’s Heart Is Yearning To walk the Garden of Spirit’s Light?   He sees His children walk in the night.   What started in the Spirit Has become the design of the […]

The Christian Walk

Some readers of The CBE Scroll will be surprised to learn of the variety of strongly-held opinions regarding who has the right of way when hiking. Hikers with an opinion are evenly divided between two primary points of view. First, many believe that when two hikers meet, the person hiking uphill has the right of […]

Wives, ‘Respect’ Your Husbands

From time to time we hear of the responsibilities outlined in Ephesians 5 verses 22 – 33 concerning husbands and wives respectively. Often the language gets reduced to a catch phrase like, “women want to be loved and men need respect.” It is as if this phrase defines all women and all men for all […]

Don’t Be Afraid to Be Big, Women

Don’t be afraid to be big, women. That’s what I learned at a conference this weekend. Women are taught to be small. Tomorrow, pay attention to how women walk, sit and stand compared to men. You’ll notice women take smaller steps with their hands closer to their sides, cross their legs, fold their hands in […]

Some More Remarks on Submission (Compliments of Phil Payne)

The last half of Philip B. Payne’s book Man and Woman, One in Christ: An Exegetical and Theological Study of Paul’s Letters begins an exegesis of Paul’s later writings in Ephesians, Colossians, and 1 Timothy and deals with some of the most contentious passages dividing the Church over the role of women. Chapter 15 “Ephesians […]

Tie-Breaker

“Wives, submit to your husbands,” says Ephesians 5:22. Just be careful not to commit idolatry while you’re submitting. The complementarians I know insist that husbands and wives should listen to each other and make big decisions together. The purpose, they say, of Paul’s instruction to wives is to prevent paralysis in decision-making. If the husband […]

On Submitting to One Another

The idea of submission is neither a cultural norm nor an accepted virtue. The human heart, untouched by God’s grace in salvation, naturally wants things its way and the voice of culture screams to us at every turn that getting what we want is most important. Scripture, however, tells us that we live in a […]

The Unconventional Heroine

Couched between the Jacob and Joseph narratives the story of Judah and Tamar, found in Genesis 38, is presented amidst the sordid fray of poor and destructive decision making where an unexpected heroine here arises. Somehow she manages to persevere against great odds in spite of the abusive masculine roles employed against her. Tamar is purchased […]

On Becoming Great

Recently I was talking with a dear friend and brother in Christ when the topic of church leadership was mentioned. In our discussion I recalled this passage from Mark 10:35-45, which reads: Then James and John, the sons of Zebedee, came to him. “Teacher,” they said, “we want you to do for us whatever we […]

Additional Modern Marriage Concerns

I would like make some additional observations on the topic of Modern Marriage Concerns by taking up a statement I made in the closing paragraphs of a previous post on this subject. “I for one do not want to go back to gender hierarchy but I can readily understand it if my complementarian friends are […]

What are We Risking?

This post originally appeared on September 12, 2013 on the blog of House2House Magazine: house2housemagazine.com/2013/09/12/what-are-we-risking-by-christa-mckirland. Growing up in the South, being Southern Baptist, and even serving on staff at a few institutional churches, the issue of “gender roles” has always been on the forefront of my mind. At twenty, I had the opportunity to serve at […]

Excalibur: Double Standards or Double-edged?

When I relocated to Durban from my native Cape Town in South Africa, I started attending a charismatic church after some months in the city. I visited other groups and churches and tried to broaden my Christian fellowship network outside of my own community of faith. In doing this, something dawned upon me. Women were […]

Submission and the Creation Account

Gail Wallace is co-founder of the Junia Project (juniaproject.com), an adjunct professor at Azusa Pacific University, a consultant for the Council for Adult and Experiential Learning, and a member of CBE. She lives in southern California and enjoys spending time with her husband of 38 years, three children, two daughters-in-law, and grandchildren. This post originally […]

Do the Five Love Languages Love Women Too? (Part 1 of 2)

I haven’t thought much about Gary Chapman’s The Five Love Languages in a long time, but recently my Family Life Education class did a presentation on this subject.  I tend to see most evangelical book empires of that sort as an attempt by publishers to cash in on an author’s popularity, and I am not a big […]

Profound Submission

Few things bring me more joy than seeing the gospel incarnated in the different cultures of our world, and few things shed more light on the gospel. Each culture has the potential to reveal something of the nature of God and his love. I was reminded of this recently when I read two accounts about […]

My Marriage Bond: From Stratified to Unified

Three tightly intertwining strands create a strong cord.   The well-known words in Ecclesiastes — “a cord of three strands is not quickly broken” (Eccles. 4:12b) — are often used to create a visual icon in our minds of the marriage bond. If “a picture is worth a thousand words,” then this simple graphic can […]

From “Frenemies” to Friends Indeed

by Amy J. Chase As I grow older, I relate to the Bible as I do my long term friends. Some friends I can remember in their teens, then twenties, and thirties. I remember the struggles we have faced over the years, the victories we have celebrated together, and how our values have grown and […]

What is Paul’s “Mystery”?

Why is Paul in chains? And what is this mystery that God has now revealed? I believe the answer to both of these questions is the same. And it might not be what we typically think it is. If we miss it, we will miss the importance of Paul’s prison epistles. When Paul returns to […]

The Parsonage: House Boyfriends

This week, the CBE Scroll features a series called “The Parsonage,” written by CBE Intern Krista Wilson, who is currently a student at Bethel University in St. Paul, MN. In it, she writes about her experiences living with a group of women who have felt God’s call to minister in the church. Enjoy! With six unmarried […]

Shame or Grandiosity or…

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In his book I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression, author and therapist Terrance Real describes the interplay between shame and grandiosity in the lives of men who have been relationally wounded by societal gender roles instilled during our earliest development stages as children. This wounding (at a […]

Wedding Vows

Over recent years we have observed what we consider an alarming trend among young couples as they make the huge step of making vows in the wedding ceremony before their family and friends. These young people so sincerely are promising to “lovingly lead” (the guy) and “willingly submit” (the girl) Do they think through what […]

Mordecai, Esther and Mutual Submission

Synopsis of the situation: Mordecai, a Jew, is an important man, known to the leadership of the Medes and Persians. His cousin, Esther, whom he raised, is now queen of the Medes and Persians. Haman is a very high official who hates Mordecai and has set up a law so that Mordecai and his entire […]

When Marriage Isn’t Mutual

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Finding oneself married to a non-egalitarian spouse, whether male or female, can be a challenging road to navigate. Consider these case studies. Norma and Charlie: It was love at first sight. Norma and Charlie’s eyes, in all actuality, met “across a crowded room” at their conservative denomination’s annual meeting. Life for the Browns began, as […]

Say Goodbye To Your Wedding Rings, Ladies…

“Therefore I want the men everywhere to pray, lifting up holy hands without anger or disputing. I also want the women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety, adorning themselves, not with elaborate hairstyles or gold or pearls or expensive clothes, but with good deeds, appropriate for women who profess to worship God. A woman […]

Willingly or Under Compulsion?

Each of you should give what you have decided in your heart to give, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver (2 Cor. 9:7 TNIV). Some hierarchical teachers stress that submission is a choice and cannot be forced. When a husband is careful to never force or coerce his wife to […]