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Yvette, also known as “Sonnet,” helped to start the Northern Colorado Chapter of CBE and serves on its steering committee. She graduated from Texas A&M University with a teaching degree. Yvette and her husband have been married since 1992 and have three children. Discovering spiritual gender equality vastly improved her relationship with God, her marriage, and her outlook on life.

My Marriage Bond: From Stratified to Unified

Three tightly intertwining strands create a strong cord.   The well-known words in Ecclesiastes — “a cord of three strands is not quickly broken” (Eccles. 4:12b) — are often used to create a visual icon in our minds of the marriage bond. If “a picture is worth a thousand words,” then this simple graphic can […]

A Pentecost Celebration

I find myself thinking about this question asked by a child, which Mary Stewart Van Leeuwen shared in her book Gender & Grace (p. 34): My younger son asked me this past Pentecost why people don’t get as excited about this holiday as they do about Christmas and Easter. He thinks we should send up […]

Civil War Balls

I’m trying to understand the appeal of Civil War Balls or Civil War Dances. They seem as out of place as Remember the Alamo Celebrations or World War II Festivities would be. Why celebrate a time of death and destruction? In my quest for understanding, I traveled to various destinations on the world wide web. […]

Willingly or Under Compulsion?

Each of you should give what you have decided in your heart to give, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver (2 Cor. 9:7 TNIV). Some hierarchical teachers stress that submission is a choice and cannot be forced. When a husband is careful to never force or coerce his wife to […]

One Flock and One Shepherd

Jesus calls each of his sheep by name, and they hear and know his voice (John 10:1-16). Sheep encompasses rams and ewes, males and females. Ewes can hear the voice of their Shepherd just as clearly as rams. While Jesus made a clear distinction between sheep and goats based upon their actions (Matthew 25:31-33), his […]

No Condemnation

Like a swimmer gripped by an undertow, the following words in the Bible when taken out of context and misinterpreted can pull women down spiritually. “Women should remain silent in the churches. They are not allowed to speak, but must be in submission, as the law says… it is disgraceful for a women to speak in […]

Something Beautiful?

Imagine a sanctuary filled with teachers and students of various ages singing:             “It’s the child on his wedding day,              It’s the mommy that gives him away,              Something beautiful” A child on his wedding day… given away. Pause for a moment and think about that. Young, teenage boys married off to older, wiser, and more […]


Concrete. Five broken slabs of ordinary-looking concrete carried around in their suitcases. My parents normally travel light (very light by American standards). But on one particular trip, they hauled home several pounds of stone-like material in their suitcases. Why? Inspired by their historical significance, my parents brought home one slab to keep for themselves and […]

Is Gender Stereotyping Hurting Boys Academically?

According to a well-known Christian author, the feminization of schools is to blame for the decreasing grades and academic skill levels of boys over the past few decades. The implication is that a feminizing of schools has redesigned them to teach girls more effectively than boys. Jim Trelease, who advocates for improving children’s literacy, has […]